It is vital and transformational to ask ourselves this question periodically partly to keep our focus and meaning in what we do. In other words it enables you to have a purpose in mind concerning your life, be it in business or in your personal life. Why do you do what you do? Until you are able to clarify and justify your reason and you are satisfied about why you do what you do then frustration might persist in life. When you don't have a purpose in mind you tend to lose focus and drift everywhere.
Every one's "Why" is different and until you are able to identify yours, copying what other people do would be a aimless venture and lead only to one route again, frustration and envy.
For example, I came from a culture where it use to be that reasons for going into a particular career or business, was with one motive in mind that it is a lucrative business or career with lots of money in salary or profit, therefore the question of being passionate about a career or business to make a difference was out of the question but the consequence of such life resulted in a lost of integrity and credibility of purpose which eventually creates a vacuum or emptiness in people. Thank God for competitive advantage and also the need for performance measures which have identified the ones who have chosen the path of purpose and fulfilment in their endeavor. This has created a leveled playing ground where people are more conscious of authenticity in business and life, and would choose what is right for them.
Where the motive behind a business or career is focus on what you as person can get out of it then the passion to serve others has been lost. you find those kind businesses does not go very far. How often do we hear in business that if your focus is solely about making money, you loose the touch and relationship building in business. The business experts do say business should be about building relationship and credibility and only then would money followers. Again how many times have we heard the saying "people buy people". Therefore, if the motive is all about making money and not about serving the needs of others then we have missed the essence of purpose in life.
Hence, if your purpose does not stretch you as a person then you have missed the essence of purpose and meaning in life. Purpose is the reason for your being which goes beyond your own needs but incorporate the needs of others to fulfil your own needs. Therefore, I encourage you to have a reflective view at why you do what you do? It will enable you to map your purpose on earth.
Saturday, 19 November 2011
How would you define an ideal life?
The social environment sets some expectation about the ideal life, such as get an education, a good job, marry, have children and buy your own home. Give yourself a round of applause if you have fitted in the box and have achieved all that others expect of you. Unfortunately, research shows that many that fitted in the box of an ideal life, found they still felt a void they could not fill nor explain which might eventually lead to an experience panic and anxiety of some form. On the other hand, those that were unable to achieve all that the society expected of them were made to feel like an under achiever which then breed regrets and self-unworthiness.
This seems to be the kind of race many go through in the first half of their lives, with pressure to keep up or give up. Then comes the second half of our lives, which is termed Mid-life and we begin to ask ourselves questions about does aspect of our lives that didn't work exactly as was expected, if we dwell on it too long we would begin to judge ourselves on what we could have done differently. There is actually nothing wrong with going through those processes but it's what we do with the process that matters. Some of these questions becomes so transparent that it can sometimes become overwhelming and because we develop real emotions during these times, a feeling of urgency is created in your spirit that results to what is termed Mid-life crisis.
We all respond to this moment differently, for some an overwhelming regrets about the mistakes they have made in life and even when they have lots of things to celebrate and be grateful for, they emphasise on the not so good aspect of their lives and this dissolution may cause them to put all their aspirations in a corner gathering dust with excuses such as I would have love to do something else but it is probably too late to start something new or I must remain in this job I hate so much because it pays the bills, so they become stuck in the rut by not doing anything about it. Unfortunately, the situation we don't do anything about would remain the same.
If that sound like you, then I will encourage you to come out of your shelves and avoid all self-sabotaging thought about moving forward and start cultivate an attitude of a new age mid-lifer who would embraces what is true for them during their reflection and also see this moment as the greatest opening in their life to re-invent and re-brand themselves "The Age of Miracle" is a book authored by Mariannes Williamson and it states that many lives have been transformed during their mid-life years, some have turned what seems to be termed mid-life crisis into great successes in career and businesses, created a fulfilled lifestyle for themselves and made a difference in the lives of others.
Having gone through this new era of mid-life myself and still navigating the course of my life towards my dreams, I have become an advocate of applied positive psychology, which states according to a research done by (William & Davies, 2002) that negative situations or what we no longer want in our lives can be shifted away when you take your attention from pathology and pain and direct it towards a clearer concentration of strength, vision and dreams.
This seems to be the kind of race many go through in the first half of their lives, with pressure to keep up or give up. Then comes the second half of our lives, which is termed Mid-life and we begin to ask ourselves questions about does aspect of our lives that didn't work exactly as was expected, if we dwell on it too long we would begin to judge ourselves on what we could have done differently. There is actually nothing wrong with going through those processes but it's what we do with the process that matters. Some of these questions becomes so transparent that it can sometimes become overwhelming and because we develop real emotions during these times, a feeling of urgency is created in your spirit that results to what is termed Mid-life crisis.
We all respond to this moment differently, for some an overwhelming regrets about the mistakes they have made in life and even when they have lots of things to celebrate and be grateful for, they emphasise on the not so good aspect of their lives and this dissolution may cause them to put all their aspirations in a corner gathering dust with excuses such as I would have love to do something else but it is probably too late to start something new or I must remain in this job I hate so much because it pays the bills, so they become stuck in the rut by not doing anything about it. Unfortunately, the situation we don't do anything about would remain the same.
If that sound like you, then I will encourage you to come out of your shelves and avoid all self-sabotaging thought about moving forward and start cultivate an attitude of a new age mid-lifer who would embraces what is true for them during their reflection and also see this moment as the greatest opening in their life to re-invent and re-brand themselves "The Age of Miracle" is a book authored by Mariannes Williamson and it states that many lives have been transformed during their mid-life years, some have turned what seems to be termed mid-life crisis into great successes in career and businesses, created a fulfilled lifestyle for themselves and made a difference in the lives of others.
Having gone through this new era of mid-life myself and still navigating the course of my life towards my dreams, I have become an advocate of applied positive psychology, which states according to a research done by (William & Davies, 2002) that negative situations or what we no longer want in our lives can be shifted away when you take your attention from pathology and pain and direct it towards a clearer concentration of strength, vision and dreams.
Wednesday, 21 September 2011
3 KEYS THAT HELPS YOU ACCOMPLISH YOUR GOALS
Most people do understand the setting of goals and get excited about their goals initially but what makes people then fail to accomplish their goals is that they cease to put in the hard work and commitment that comes with goal setting. The question then is what makes those goals exciting in one moment and then becomes less important the next?
My answer to that question is the first key that hinders people from accomplishing their goals. Which is that most people lose the momentum of enthusiasm that emerges when they first set their goals, once you lose enthusiasm in your goal, it become impossible to keep the goals alive? Therefore, being enthusiastic about your goal will make you commit your focus and energy to bring that goal to manifestation.
A quote from Henry Ford says “You can do anything if you have enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is the yeast that makes your hopes rise to the stars. Enthusiasm is the spark in your eye, the swing in your gait, the grip of your hand, the irresistible surge of your will and your energy to execute your ideas. Enthusiasts are fighters, they have fortitude, and they have staying qualities. Enthusiasm is at the bottom of all progress! With it there is accomplishment. Without it, there are only alibis.
Enthusiasm is a powerful tool to put to work to accomplish those goals, when you are enthused and excited about your goal you will be amazed that people around you get excited too and the goal becomes a fun adventure. Your enthusiasm and the excitement around you would keep the momentum going until you accomplish those goals.
The second key to achieving your goals is, setting goals that are bigger than yourself; your goals must be challenging to compel you to take action. A goal that have not been properly reasoned out to assess what it will cause you if you fail to achieve it would easily lose its drive and the reason why you want to achieve it. On the other hand, a goal that has a cost and effect of what you stand to lose or gain, would stir up an inspiration in you to accomplish it.
The key here to stand the chances of achieving your goal is to set goals that are significant bigger than what you think you can achieve, and the power behind these tools is that the goals would frighten you a little and excite you a lots which is fine because it create the drivers and energy you need to achieve your goals. The thing is most people are far more capable than they initially neither believe nor give themselves credit for.
A goal that frightens us pushes us out of our comfort zone to something bigger than we imagined and being outside our comfort zone is a path that leads to growth.
The third key is consistency with the actions you take to accomplish your goal as it will result not only in the tangible form you will see but also would mentally strengthen your being because consistency would send a message to your sub-conscious mind that this is the result you want to create for yourself and in turn create mastery in accomplishing your dreams.
It does not matter how much you are doing but being consistent would enable you to eat a whole elephant bit by bit as the say it. Consistency is an effort over time that equals success, no matter how overwhelming the goals you set yourself are, taking consistent action would move you closer to achieve your goals and you will become better at it. Just small actions consistently would eventually and ultimately produce the results you once only dreamed about.
Benjamin Disraeli quoted “A consistent soul believes in destiny, a capricious one in chance”.
Robert Collier quoted “Success is the sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out”
My answer to that question is the first key that hinders people from accomplishing their goals. Which is that most people lose the momentum of enthusiasm that emerges when they first set their goals, once you lose enthusiasm in your goal, it become impossible to keep the goals alive? Therefore, being enthusiastic about your goal will make you commit your focus and energy to bring that goal to manifestation.
A quote from Henry Ford says “You can do anything if you have enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is the yeast that makes your hopes rise to the stars. Enthusiasm is the spark in your eye, the swing in your gait, the grip of your hand, the irresistible surge of your will and your energy to execute your ideas. Enthusiasts are fighters, they have fortitude, and they have staying qualities. Enthusiasm is at the bottom of all progress! With it there is accomplishment. Without it, there are only alibis.
Enthusiasm is a powerful tool to put to work to accomplish those goals, when you are enthused and excited about your goal you will be amazed that people around you get excited too and the goal becomes a fun adventure. Your enthusiasm and the excitement around you would keep the momentum going until you accomplish those goals.
The second key to achieving your goals is, setting goals that are bigger than yourself; your goals must be challenging to compel you to take action. A goal that have not been properly reasoned out to assess what it will cause you if you fail to achieve it would easily lose its drive and the reason why you want to achieve it. On the other hand, a goal that has a cost and effect of what you stand to lose or gain, would stir up an inspiration in you to accomplish it.
The key here to stand the chances of achieving your goal is to set goals that are significant bigger than what you think you can achieve, and the power behind these tools is that the goals would frighten you a little and excite you a lots which is fine because it create the drivers and energy you need to achieve your goals. The thing is most people are far more capable than they initially neither believe nor give themselves credit for.
A goal that frightens us pushes us out of our comfort zone to something bigger than we imagined and being outside our comfort zone is a path that leads to growth.
A quote from Ted Turner says “You should set goals beyond your reach so you always have something to live for”.
Another by Ralph Ransom says: “Man was created as a being, who should constantly keep improving, a being who on reaching one goal sets a higher one”
The third key is consistency with the actions you take to accomplish your goal as it will result not only in the tangible form you will see but also would mentally strengthen your being because consistency would send a message to your sub-conscious mind that this is the result you want to create for yourself and in turn create mastery in accomplishing your dreams.
It does not matter how much you are doing but being consistent would enable you to eat a whole elephant bit by bit as the say it. Consistency is an effort over time that equals success, no matter how overwhelming the goals you set yourself are, taking consistent action would move you closer to achieve your goals and you will become better at it. Just small actions consistently would eventually and ultimately produce the results you once only dreamed about.
Benjamin Disraeli quoted “A consistent soul believes in destiny, a capricious one in chance”.
Robert Collier quoted “Success is the sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out”
Wednesday, 11 May 2011
LIVING A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE: Are you living a purpose or just existing in life?...
LIVING A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE: Are you living a purpose or just existing in life?...: "You are either living a purpose or you are just been driven by the wave of life in any direction, which usually is not a direction you desir..."
Are you living a purpose or just existing in life?
You are either living a purpose or you are just been driven by the wave of life in any direction, which usually is not a direction you desire for yourself. If that is where you are right now then I can only sum that up as just existing in life (however turf that may sound). I want to inspire many who are the latter, either stuck because they do not know how to get themselves unstuck or they are in denial of where they are in life. You can always stop being a victim of circumstances, but rather a co-creator of life by living your purpose.
Purpose is easily identified by knowing what it is you are passionate about, that gives you the reason for wanting to get up in the morning, sense of belonging to a cause that is adding value to yourself and others and of course the reason for being.
My purpose is to reach as many people in their millions that are feeling frustrated with what they do right now and the thought of getting up every morning to go to work and do the same thing over and over again drains them as an individual. If your only motivating factor for living is for the bills been paid then you need to re-access your life and its purpose. It is not to say that paying your bills is not important to get you up daily but don't allow it to be the soul factor because you will be burnt out in the end. I say this with all humility from someone who has experienced a meaningless life that it is my mission that people do not get to the lane of regrets where it is practically impossible to do much to change the situation before coming to this realization.
I would want to encourage you that my every day is full of excitement because I know someone out there via my writing, speaking, coaching will be provoke to take action to change their story to align to their purpose. For me that is the greatest fulfillment of life when people send me emails and testimonies of making a difference.
Yet the reason many are still stuck is about getting rid of the clutters. You can start by taking little steps to de-clutter and get clarity. I found that working from the inside-out instead of search outward for answers helped me to discover myself and brought clearer vision for focusing on my purpose.
It is with this passion to support the facilitation of this process that lead me to wrote the book "Overcoming Challenges-Putting challenges into positive context" This book anchors on perspectives that lead to a paradigm shift in our perceptions about challenges. In "Overcoming Challenges: Putting Challenges into Positive Context", I presented a principle-centered approach for overcoming challenges. Fundamental to overcoming challenges is an understanding of the state of the mind and its beliefs. This book gets to the root of how we perceive challenges and the reasons we take the actions we take. When we see things differently, we tend to think differently, feel differently, and behave differently, which then contribute to our actions and their outcomes. In this book, Lydia aims to re-orient your thinking and beliefs about challenges and in so doing empower you to perceive powerfully with clarity then you can take constructive actions to overcome your challenges and live your purpose.
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Purpose is easily identified by knowing what it is you are passionate about, that gives you the reason for wanting to get up in the morning, sense of belonging to a cause that is adding value to yourself and others and of course the reason for being.
My purpose is to reach as many people in their millions that are feeling frustrated with what they do right now and the thought of getting up every morning to go to work and do the same thing over and over again drains them as an individual. If your only motivating factor for living is for the bills been paid then you need to re-access your life and its purpose. It is not to say that paying your bills is not important to get you up daily but don't allow it to be the soul factor because you will be burnt out in the end. I say this with all humility from someone who has experienced a meaningless life that it is my mission that people do not get to the lane of regrets where it is practically impossible to do much to change the situation before coming to this realization.
I would want to encourage you that my every day is full of excitement because I know someone out there via my writing, speaking, coaching will be provoke to take action to change their story to align to their purpose. For me that is the greatest fulfillment of life when people send me emails and testimonies of making a difference.
Yet the reason many are still stuck is about getting rid of the clutters. You can start by taking little steps to de-clutter and get clarity. I found that working from the inside-out instead of search outward for answers helped me to discover myself and brought clearer vision for focusing on my purpose.
It is with this passion to support the facilitation of this process that lead me to wrote the book "Overcoming Challenges-Putting challenges into positive context" This book anchors on perspectives that lead to a paradigm shift in our perceptions about challenges. In "Overcoming Challenges: Putting Challenges into Positive Context", I presented a principle-centered approach for overcoming challenges. Fundamental to overcoming challenges is an understanding of the state of the mind and its beliefs. This book gets to the root of how we perceive challenges and the reasons we take the actions we take. When we see things differently, we tend to think differently, feel differently, and behave differently, which then contribute to our actions and their outcomes. In this book, Lydia aims to re-orient your thinking and beliefs about challenges and in so doing empower you to perceive powerfully with clarity then you can take constructive actions to overcome your challenges and live your purpose.
Get a copy via link:
Wednesday, 27 April 2011
3 Strategies for finding your Life Purpose
A life without purpose is like going on an adventure without a map and destination. The first problem is, you do not know where you are going and secondly to embark on such a journey will lead you everywhere without knowing what you are looking for, even if it stirs you in the face.
Many people including myself at one point have lived their lives liked that, been carried away by the circumstances of life or being told what's best for them. Often the only input people have is to follow such route only to find they are either unhappy or overwhelmed ,if it turns out to be a career they are not enjoying. Unfortunately, many still experience the same wind of circumstances because they either need help in identify their purpose or they have gone too far out and feel it is too late for a change. As a word of encouragement it is never too late to find your life purpose because the benefit of living your purpose outweighs having years of unfulfilled empty life. Living your purpose will bring meaning and hope to living.
The three strategies for find your purpose is as follows:
1. Choice – You can choose a particular path by following a career that you are passionate about and willing to devote yourself to learn everything there is to learn about that career. I am not talking about choosing a path because you just like something about that career or an option based decision that says something like “that career seems to be popular and lucrative” but am talking about a career that you are completely passionate about and willing to commit your life. As Will Smith the actor puts it, “do you believe in this cause that you are willing to die for it?” I mean following a path that lightens you up in the morning and makes you feel fulfilled and privileged to be a part of it. Where your passion goes beyond personal and financial recognition to making a difference then you are living a purpose.
2. Talent - “The Bible” in my opinion the greatest book ever written indicates that everyone is giving a measure of talent to trade with life. When you see your talent as a seed you need to nurture and harvest, you know to give it the commitment, hard work and patience of time for it to grow. Discovering and trading your talent is the most fulfilling purpose of life. You can work on locating the gift of talent you have that will serve you and others on earth. I would refer to an interviewer asking Will Smith if he was just naturally talented. His answer was that there was an element of talent but I have to work hard at it while others are sleeping. In essence a talent only becomes a purpose that drives you when you work hard at bring out its full potential.
Wednesday, 6 April 2011
LIVING A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE: The Benefits of a Purpose-Driven Life
LIVING A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE: The Benefits of a Purpose-Driven Life: "The benefits of living a purpose-driven life are numerous but I will focus on a couple today. When you know your purpose, you giv..."
The Benefits of a Purpose-Driven Life
The benefits of living a purpose-driven life are numerous but I will focus on a couple today. When you know your purpose, you give meaning to your life and the reason for being. We are more able to bear almost anything that life throws at us and overcome when we have a purpose in mind. When your life has meaning, you don't feel like a failure nor struggling to become something that you don't even know. For without meaning life has no significance and hopeless, and hope comes from having a purpose.
Secondly, knowing your purpose simplifies your life. It will define what you do and what you don't do, and your purpose becomes your navigator and yardstick for evaluating which activities of life are essential and which are not because you will constantly ask yourself whether this activity will help you in your journey to fulfilling your purpose for life? Your life will become simplified in the sense that you are more focus, with a clear foundation on which to base your every decisions, resources and allocation of time. A life of purpose is a plain and simple life full of life and peace. Your purpose would always produces passion which will drive and motive you continuously. For nothing energizes us like a clear purpose, which gives us a reason for getting up every morning with joy and gratitude.
On the other hand, people without purpose tend to do too many things at a time, making their choices based on situation, pressures and the feelings of the moment that only ends in frustration and the feeling of laboring hard with nothing to show for it.
A life without purpose would often have complains such as "I have spent my strength and time in vain and for nothing", "My years of hard work and efforts leaves me feeling empty", "My life drags day after day without hope", "I have labored to no purpose" and so on.
Thursday, 24 March 2011
LIVING A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE: How do you live a purpose driven life?
LIVING A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE: How do you live a purpose driven life?: "Some years back I got frustrated with life because I had no idea where I was in life as the complexity of life overwhelmed me. I always hear..."
How do you live a purpose driven life?
Some years back I got frustrated with life because I had no idea where I was in life as the complexity of life overwhelmed me. I always hear people talk about living a purpose driven life and I was curious to find such life.
Which leads to the title of the topic am sharing today. “How do you live a purpose driven life?” Thinking about the question itself, I took a deep breath because I did not know how to answer it initially. After catching up with my breath, I came up with another confrontational question that answers the first question, although there is a saying that you do not answer a question with another question, in this case it was the only way forward for breaking down the process. The second question was “How do I find my purpose?”
At this point, I started researching materials written on life purpose and found it would be helpful to first clarify the difference between “purpose” and “goals” as it can often be confused with each other. Firstly, I will define goals as a milestone of achievements.
Purpose I found was define as the highest level of goal in life that signify one’s existent and reason for being. To emphasise its worth it was describe as the goal that other goals serve, in order words the master of all goals of life. No wonder we find in life the successful or the rich depending on how you define riches and success, sometimes talk about being unhappy or suicidal. That explains why you get fulfilled people who not rich or successful per se are happy and contended when they are living their purpose, which I believe is the true riches.
For example, someone whose goal is to have a big five bedrooms house might have a purpose to foster children.
To identify our purpose or finding our purpose in life is complicated, in spite of that every individual has the ability to make a difference in other people’s live hence living a purpose. It can be a complex journey; however, it is a necessary journey. Unfortunately, some of us do find we have embarked on a journey and have climbed to the top of that mountain, only to find out it is not the right one for us.
Many have missed out of life fulfilment because they were not able to locate what their purpose was before their death. I once heard a saying that one of the most prosperous places on earth is the burial ground because it is full of people with unaccomplished purposes.
This tips and warnings can be use as a pointer for finding our purpose
1. Self- reflection
This is a major step to finding our purpose in life by taking an inventory of our life, analysing what are our strengths and weaknesses. We can find our purpose by maximising our strengths and improving our weaknesses. Becoming aware of the key factors to living a purpose driven life is a powerful start. Self-reflection will enable us to reach a place where you stop looking outward for the answers but look inward into your core being or intuition, sometimes known as our gut feelings. I define intuition as the ability to knowing something without the use of reasoning; it is when you know something just because you know and not been able draw any reasoning nor logical explanation. For example, we sometimes have experiences where we feel strong about an issue or a situation that when we follow the direction of our feelings we get a favourable result, then again, we might get a feeling that our intuition is directing us to do something. However, we decide not to yield to it and it eventually turns out to be the case.
Your purpose will drive you and compel you to dreaming, visualising, fulfilment, inner peace, joy.
2. Communication
Through communication with trusted associates, friends and family, you can identify your purpose. Are there things people say about you that you do exceptionally well, or is there a talent that you recognised as having? For example, am sure we have all heard people say if you want an expert or the person who has a passion for caring for children of the world then names like Mother Theresa and so many others will come up. Therefore, what is that talent or passion you are known for or that thing you have a good heart for and compassionate and always willing to go the extra mile. All these could be a pointer to where your passion lays hence your purpose.
3. Volunteering
Being a volunteer for an organisation of your choice can also be a tip for finding your purpose in life. It is also a good way to test our gut feelings in reality. It has been found that when people volunteer in the area of their passion, they feel fulfilled, motivated and energise in that role more than they feel even in their full time work. You will actually feel a sense of achievement, value and contribution to other people’s life. For example, I found this to be true in my voluntary work, am always looking forward to it and the sense of adding value to someone else’s life was awesome and very fulfilling.
4. Frustration
I am sure you must be thinking frustration cannot be a tip to knowing one’s purpose, but it serves, as a prompter that something is not right hence the reason for the frustration. This could be a warning signal to indicate you are not living your purpose. For example, someone in a career, that they are not enjoying but feel they are stuck in it and have to remain due to certain complexity of life. Such signals can also be evident in a career\businesses that one is constantly feeling tired with no logical reasons for fatigue, although not solely the only factor but if you find that your energy is drained and you are feeling frustrated or out of character behaviours like you are muddy at work and at home. I will emphasise again it is not 100 percentages proven to be the only symptom but medically and psychologically proven that nine out of ten people feeling this way have an aspect of their life not right hence their purpose. It is more than likely that the person is in the wrong purpose or destiny. In such case, the person ought to be working on their exit strategy. This might take longer or shorter time depending on the actions you take and how determined you are to begin living a purpose driven life. If I can humble you, it is better to start taking little step than not taking any, and living in hope without action will only intensify your frustration. For example, I got frustrated with what life was dumping on me, I tried many careers and businesses not feeling fulfilled but frustrated because I knew I was not that person that flow with the masses. I knew deep inside me that I was a unique being of excellent who is destiny to excel and make a difference in the life of others, so when that was not happening in my life. I knew something was wrong that I had to find my purpose. Therefore, just over two years ago I embarked on a search to find out “Why” I am on the planet earth. I invested time into research, and become a lover of personal development books, attended seminars and training developments, got myself a mentor, coach and am still doing it, to get to where I am today, and my every day is opening up a new opportunity for me to excel and contribute to humanity.
5. Economy melt down
Often periods of instability forces individuals and organisations to reflect on themselves. As an organisation, are they fulfilling on their purpose that create that unique selling point that separate them from their competitors. As individuals, people are kind of living in fear of not wanting to lose their jobs or thinking what if I do, what can I do is the question in mind that propels people to want to re-ignite their focus and skills hence discover their purpose. It is actually one of the few moments where fears reverse into positive, because it forces people to either adjust or start preparing them for a plan B therefore finding their life purpose.
For example, in my case, I lost my job again, and this brought me to the realization that I needed to look inwardly rather than looking outwardly for my solution and getting disappointments and being frustrated. I asked myself the ultimate questions, what are my strengths, talents, gifts that can ensure I am living in my purpose, what can I do, and whose help do I need?
Conclusion
Above all, taking action is paramount to living your purpose. I got myself a life coach, mentors, invested in books and other learning medium and material to re-orient my thinking and overcome self-limiting believes. My discovery was phenomenal and life transforming. Awareness and knowledge without action will only end
in frustration, taking actions to living your purpose will create a fulfilling life, and you leave a legacy behind.
Please leave your comments below.
Saturday, 12 March 2011
LIVING A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE: WHAT EXACTLY DO YOU CARRY AS A PERSON
LIVING A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE: WHAT EXACTLY DO YOU CARRY AS A PERSON: "WHAT EXACTLY DO YOU CARRY AS A PERSONBy Lydia Kolejo Akinwunmi<p>I awoke today to the presence of who I am, in fact no other DNA fits ..."
WHAT EXACTLY DO YOU CARRY AS A PERSON
WHAT EXACTLY DO YOU CARRY AS A PERSON
By Lydia Kolejo Akinwunmi
<p>I awoke today to the presence of who I am, in fact no other DNA fits me, am unique, am peculiar being, am born with so much potential in me to create the world I want to live, not the world limiting who I ought to be. When you come into the fullness of this realisation you know, that you know there is no stopping you other than you stopping yourself so friends stop limiting the explosion of your creative mind. You choose who you want to be and be in the presence of what that entails, work it and you see the universe responding to your demand. Why don't you for once dare that little voice in your mind that tells you, you are incapable, my question is how does he/she know that? Is he/she (that is the voice within) judging me on your past mistakes, well that is not sufficient because those mistakes arise because I was not well informed nor act accordingly in the subject matter so little voice shut up because I now know better to be fully informed and take action in any area I want to "Be, Do, Have". Stretch your self today and get help/support if you need one and you will see there is no stopping you in achieving who you want to "Be,Do, Have.</p><p>TAKE HOLD OF A FREE 30 MINUTES COACHING SESSION -SIGN ON: http://www.exploreyourpurpose.org.uk</p><p> </p><p><Photo 1></p><br />
Thursday, 10 March 2011
TIPS FOR OVERCOMING CHALLENGES
During challenging/problem times in our lives, part of what determines whether we overcome them or not depends on the attitude we choose to adopt. I want to share a tip on how our attitude would contribute to our results. You must have a right attitude to overcome your challenges. People would often display two major attitudes when confronted with challenges: NEGATIVE ATTITUDE or POSITIVE ATTITUDE.
Let us consider NEGATIVE Attitude. People with a negative attitude will react to their challenges with “negative vibes" which feeds their mind with anger, confusion, resentment, frustration and as a consequence of such reaction they limit their thinking faculty of the mind to come up with constructive ideas. A negative attitude person would most likely develop their thinking to blaming others for their predicament hence adopting a “blaming strategy", which implies that someone or something is responsible for their predicament. Very often such people take little or no action because of their wrong attitude that elude them from thinking straight therefore, they either do anything or do very little to create a solution. Unfortunately, the result of such attitude is that the challenges either persist or intensify.
Now let us consider POSITIVE RESPONSE Attitude. Most people that respond to their challenges positively often find the solutions they are looking for or some form of solution that enables them to get the result they intended. They would usually remain calm, quiet and confident during challenging times; they would often take a step back to reflect on the situation, utilising what is called inside-out approach, which means looking at what skills/resources they posses and only then do they search for available support outside to overcome. They would often find solutions with ease because of their open/positive attitude that focuses on changing the course of the matter from that of trial to triumph. They do this by asking the question “How do I resolve this or what can I do?" rather than asking "Why me?"
In conclusion, this is not to say that positive attitude is all you need to overcome your challenges but it is very good starting point to unleash the power within us during challenging times.
Monday, 28 February 2011
The Mind and Our Thought
The mind is the leader and forerunner of all our actions. It houses the Spiritual, Physical and Mental potential of the human being. Therefore the human mind is the treasure chest from where advancement and accomplishments of our world are drawn. It can also house the trap that limits some from exploring the depth of the mind capacity, depending on our utilization. Our mind has the capacity to revolutionize the world, as we have seen in the creative invention of mankind. The human mind will remain idle until a relevant force is applied to it, and this force is exactly what challenges provide because they instigate the mind into action. The human mind is that workshop for creativity and engineering room for every invention in the world. It is where ideas and inspirations are processed into images, which are eventually turned into the physical manifestations we see around us today in technology, science and history.
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Friday, 25 February 2011
How to Shift your Thinking Levels
The challenges we face these days cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were when they were created, we need to reorient how we perceive challenges. We need a new level of thinking that is empowering and that attribute to personal effectiveness for overcoming challenges. Until we learn to change our thinking regarding challenges of life it will take mastery over us.
Thursday, 17 February 2011
OVERCOMING CHALLENGES BY PUTTING CHALLENGES INTO A POSITIVE CONTEXT
We all face challenges or obstacles in life and these challenges are not unique to anyone, as we all have to go through them in different diversity. Therefore I would encourage you that whatever challenges you are faced with right now, you are not alone nor are you the first person facing such challenges. The key issue then is to be equipped with tips on how to overcome challenges. Unfortunately, many people do not have these tips or do not use them hence the reason why many are held back from living the life they truly desire. This is due to myth of understanding, approaches and attitudes for handling challenges. Our beliefs contributes to our attitude and determines our actions, hence the actions we take when faced with challenges.
In my book "Overcoming challenges by putting challenges into positive context" due to be published in the next couple of weeks. You will discover a series of prods and prompters that focuses on the power of positive perspective and divine enabler for overcoming challenges.
The book will also provoke a new set of thinking about viewing challenges from a different perspective which is positive rather than from the usual negative perception that many people have about challenges.
This book will both stimulate and inspire you to shift your perspective about challenges and the way you respond, react and handle challenges, consequently, your key for overcoming challenges.
Once you have been able to shift your thought from perceiving challenges as negative occurrences that creates fear and worries or other fear based emotions such as being in denial, then you have created for yourself a possibility mentality that allows you to view your challenges as a learning process that prepares you for your next level, and positioning yourself to be empowered for overcoming challenges.
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In my book "Overcoming challenges by putting challenges into positive context" due to be published in the next couple of weeks. You will discover a series of prods and prompters that focuses on the power of positive perspective and divine enabler for overcoming challenges.
The book will also provoke a new set of thinking about viewing challenges from a different perspective which is positive rather than from the usual negative perception that many people have about challenges.
This book will both stimulate and inspire you to shift your perspective about challenges and the way you respond, react and handle challenges, consequently, your key for overcoming challenges.
Once you have been able to shift your thought from perceiving challenges as negative occurrences that creates fear and worries or other fear based emotions such as being in denial, then you have created for yourself a possibility mentality that allows you to view your challenges as a learning process that prepares you for your next level, and positioning yourself to be empowered for overcoming challenges.
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Wednesday, 2 February 2011
HOW TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE MINDSET
Is your negative mindset preventing you from performing at your best? By simply understanding how they work and knowing how to re-orient your mindset. You can get it to work for you rather than against you.
I will look at the five main types of Negative Mindsets that is usually at work in people lives and then we look at strategies you can adapt to overcome these negative mindsets.
1. The Mind Chatter or Negative Self-talk
This usually comes with voices of limiting beliefs of yourself or your ability to perform at your best.
Strategies for overcoming
To overcome negative self-talk you need to challenge your negative beliefs by asking yourself "Is this belief valid?" How useful or productive is this belief or assumption I have of myself.
(1) You watch your words; your words are incredibly powerful because they reinforce who you are.
(2) Learn to rephrase your language by simply adding a word that includes open possibility to your every sentences
For example instead of saying, “I cannot do this? By adding an extra word such as "YET" you can change your perspective about yourself so you say, "I cannot do this yet". By doing that you have created an open possibility mentality that is much more positive and powerful.
(3) Increase your confidence by gaining wider knowledge about your subject area.
2. Being Overwhelm - This is a negative mindset that tends to distract people by pulling them in too many directions. Another way that this works is by you been too busy without actually doing anything or suffering from ‘cluttered idea syndrome’ too many ideas that leave you more confused.
Strategies for Overcoming
You can overcome these feelings by getting yourself to focus. You do this by clarifying what kind of result you want to get. Question such as: (1) what do I want? And
(2) What is Important to me?
(3) What resources are available and how can I utilise the resources I need?
These questions would help you to create a clear and compelling vision and have a desired outcome.
3. Playing Small - These negative mindsets usually takes the form of resistance by confining you to your "comfort zone" which in turns limits you and create stagnancy. Playing small syndrome breeds inaction, doubt and fear.
Strategies for Overcoming – The ways to overcome this is by stretching yourself to take little measured steps that gets you out of your “comfort zone”
- Identify in what ways you play small at present.
- Find out what you can do and aim to stretch yourself from your "comfort zone" to your "stretch zone"
- Exercise your confidence muscles by taking little steps and measure the result you get.
- Knowing how your "stretch zone" actions would expand you.
4. Procrastination - Delayed action
There are so many reasons why people procrastinate, it could be fear, lack of discipline, lack of self-esteem or confidence, the list can be endless.
Strategies for Overcoming
The only strategy for overcoming procrastination is to take action. This can be done in many ways; I will just mention a few. Focus on what you can do in the present moment "Now" and do it. Learn to implement immediately. How do you do this?
(1) Have a list of actions daily and breaking down your goals.
(1) Have a list of actions daily and breaking down your goals.
(2) Make yourself accountable to a friend or Master group.
(3) Create systems and routines to follow.
(4) Develop an Action Habit.
(5) Feel the fear but do it anyway (by Susan Jeffers)
5. Perfectionism- This type of negative mindset causes you to constantly refine and hone things searching for perfection thereby delaying action. "Continuous improvement is better than delayed perfection" Mark Twain.
Strategies for Overcoming - Do not wait for perfect timing but take action and then deal with issues that arises. We tend to expand our scope of learning that way. You can do this by:
(1) Replacing perfection with 'good enough'.
(2)Do not wait to feel motivated. "Action precedes motivation” Robert Mckain
(3)Develop an Action Habit
(4)Implement quickly. "The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now" Proverb
(5) Connect with like-minded people.
Friday, 7 January 2011
BRIDGING THE GAP BETWEEN PAIN AND SUFFERING
I strongly empathize with people who have had unfortunate incidents in life and have had to endure pain but not so for those who choose to dis-empower themselves by suffering in the name of circumstances. I feel led to provoke someone’s thought that suffering only leads to the path of destruction, unfortunately many still choose to take that root, because they have not been able to make a correlation between the two.
Pain is a natural course that cannot be changed but how you react to the situation determines whether you choose an empowering life or choose a negative perceptive that leads to suffering. However difficult this may sound suffering is a choice. My heart longs to reach out to people who have not been able to make the distinction between pain and suffering. Pain is the result of an incident for example a tragic accident, natural disaster, the death of a loved one and physical abuse. The list can be endless, but how a person chooses to respond and react is the key distinction between pain and suffering.
Have I got the right to write about how people choose to respond or react when faced with circumstances that makes them feel they have lost control and have experienced emotional tragedy, injustice or hopelessness, I suppose the question of control is debatable. I will suggest control is much more displayed when you know that you have a choice in how you respond or react to a situation. It does sadden my heart when I see people choosing to go down the destructive root of anger, self-pity, frustration, blaming self and others, the society and whatever they choice to blamed rather than choosing to make a difference in their lives and others. I am sure we have all heard of people who against all odds have decided to explode beyond the limitation of their conditions. I believe that in whatever situation you find yourself, you owe it to yourself to choice life in abundance, i.e. a rich and fulfilling life.
Saturday, 1 January 2011
POSSIBILITY MENTALITY
WHAT DOES NEW YEAR CONNOTE TO YOU?
How you perceive the New Year is key to what you actually get to accomplish by the end of the year. Are you one of those that says, it's another year, so what, I haven't got much to say for it. In order words you approach the year with a negative mindset and you beat yourself down for not been able to accomplish your goals or you one of those who have accomplish a part of your goals for last year but now feel there isn't a point in setting yourself any goals for 2011 because you don't achieve them i.e a mentality that limits you.
Today, I want to address both type of people here by inspiring you to change your perspective to a possibility mentality by viewing the New Year from two dimensions.
Firstly, to those who feel despondent, New Year for you should be about changing your perception to view the New Year as an opportunity to start again creatively, in respective of the past, you can choose not to give up after all, they said Thomas Edison who invented the light bulb we now use today tried 1000 times before accomplishment. Have you tried 1000 times? I guess not so you have no reasons to give up ." Winners don't quit and quitters don't win". Put on your possibility mentality hat and there is no stopping you. The only limitation between you and your goals is the limitation you set yourself. Colonel Sanders of KFC now known worldwide, did not make the name we now know until over 60 years of age.
For the second sets of people you have every reasons to celebrate your feats and the same capabilities you put to work to accomplish the goals you achieved can be put to work again and again and again to achieve the same result, so may be you are not there yet but at least you are further away from where you started. Therefore adopt a possibility mentality and you will see all your goals accomplished as you persevere. So for you I would suggest the New Year should be about an opportunity to move on. They do say "Rome was not build in a day" and "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a step".
I WISH ALL MY FOLLOWERS AN UNLIMITED BREAKTHROUGH YEAR IN EVERY SPHERE OF LIFE.
LYDIA AKINWUNMI
How you perceive the New Year is key to what you actually get to accomplish by the end of the year. Are you one of those that says, it's another year, so what, I haven't got much to say for it. In order words you approach the year with a negative mindset and you beat yourself down for not been able to accomplish your goals or you one of those who have accomplish a part of your goals for last year but now feel there isn't a point in setting yourself any goals for 2011 because you don't achieve them i.e a mentality that limits you.
Today, I want to address both type of people here by inspiring you to change your perspective to a possibility mentality by viewing the New Year from two dimensions.
Firstly, to those who feel despondent, New Year for you should be about changing your perception to view the New Year as an opportunity to start again creatively, in respective of the past, you can choose not to give up after all, they said Thomas Edison who invented the light bulb we now use today tried 1000 times before accomplishment. Have you tried 1000 times? I guess not so you have no reasons to give up ." Winners don't quit and quitters don't win". Put on your possibility mentality hat and there is no stopping you. The only limitation between you and your goals is the limitation you set yourself. Colonel Sanders of KFC now known worldwide, did not make the name we now know until over 60 years of age.
For the second sets of people you have every reasons to celebrate your feats and the same capabilities you put to work to accomplish the goals you achieved can be put to work again and again and again to achieve the same result, so may be you are not there yet but at least you are further away from where you started. Therefore adopt a possibility mentality and you will see all your goals accomplished as you persevere. So for you I would suggest the New Year should be about an opportunity to move on. They do say "Rome was not build in a day" and "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a step".
I WISH ALL MY FOLLOWERS AN UNLIMITED BREAKTHROUGH YEAR IN EVERY SPHERE OF LIFE.
LYDIA AKINWUNMI
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